When you aren't sure about what to do, you may assume that you're not sure because you don't know what to do. More often than not, the reason you are unsure is that you DO know what you would do, but you are weighing the value of your decision against someone else's idea of what you should do.
In a perfect world, during your period of indecision, you are looking at your own point of view and the point of view of the other person. You are considering that other person's success with this type of decision, their experience, and their motivation for making that kind of decision, asking yourself, "Am I missing something in how I am thinking about my decision that would help me see the bigger picture?"
However, in the real world, you may struggle with indecision as a self-criticism that you don't know what you're doing or you're too dumb to figure it out, so you just do what someone who is more confident tells you is the right thing.Or rebel against both your decision and everyone else's and do nothing.
We rarely give ourselves the opportunity to say to ourselves, "Okay, my point of view has just as much value as someone else's. And, this is MY life afterall. I'm the one who will live with the decisions I make. No one else has as much at stake than me. So, let's see what I can learn by listening to why this other person feels their decision is the right one. Maybe something in their approach will be the missing piece I am looking for, then I can make my decision, my way."
At the June 13event, valuing and acknowledging our own life experiences, thoughts and points of view will be important elements in finding a new way forward in how we love, work, and manage our money.
